06 March 2009

The Engagement-moon - Part 2

Part 1

The few months before we were “officially” engaged were torture! At this time (late February, 2008), my mom and dad and his mom, dad and step-mom were the only people we had told of our intentions to seal the deal. They were instructed to keep their lips sealed tight.

We saw one potentially MAJOR issue to the wedding – when?? Mr. Bear Cub accepted the position in Chile with a start date of Oct 1, 2008. I was in the application process for a job nearby in Chile, but I had no idea if they would select me (this was the first “career” job I’d ever applied for!). If I was going to move to Chile with Mr. Cubbie, what would my visa status be if I didn’t get the job? Would I be a tourist? … really?? I’d have to leave the country every 3 months! The thought alone was a nightmare. What if one of us got injured while we were living abroad? The other wouldn’t have legal power of attorney over the injured loved one! (remember those legal reasons for which people actually marry?) They wouldn’t be able to see them, decide medical/legal issues… and probably worse things I don’t even know about! It’s really only for this reason that we told our parents we were “engaged” before it was legit – for legal counseling! (I know! so romantic, huh? :-( )None of our parents are attorneys, but c’mon, parents are always the best place to start for life advice!

My parents told us about power of attorney and all that scary “what if” stuff. At this point, we toyed with the idea of being legally married before we left the country, and then getting “weddinged” the following year. We both would love for the wedding ceremony to contain the entire process in one fell romantic swoop, but for the time being we kept the courthouse wedding as an option if I were not offered the job in Chile.

Back to the story! ☺ My birthday usually lands in spring break, and that year we had planned to go camping at the Gila National Forest for the break. Camping at Gila is pretty special to us. We both love rain, green, trees, mountains, … -- all of which southern New Mexico kind of lacks. I won’t lie, living in southern NM was hard. It has its saving graces, though – GREEN CHILES!! And Gila ;).

In the August of 2007, a few months after I met Mr. Cubbie, we went camping together with a friend at Gila. It was spectacular! I was so thrilled to see rain and green after the dry and brown of southern NM. Before any of you think I’m really hatin’ on NM, don’t worry! It definitely grew on me ;) That’s another story, though!

Our camping trip was only a few days before the start of the semester, so this allowed Mr. Cubbie and I plenty of time to get to know each other better. He played his guitar (I especially loved “This Old Guitar” – his inspiration for learning to play!), and we admired the amazing view of the Milky Way. If you haven’t seen the Milky Way at night, only a few stars, you’re really missing a beautiful view! It’s magical!

Our friend went to bed, and we pulled a blanket out into the middle of an opening in the forest to talk and look at the stars. We talked for hours, and then finally kissed! We’ve been inseparable since! I know it sounds cheesy – I don’t care! ☺ I love that we had our first kiss under a star-light sky on a camping trip. ☺ Nothing could be more perfect.

Back to early March, 2008 – due to the significance Gila holds for us, I thought for sure Mr. Cubbie would propose on this camping trip! Then again, I realized that was only a few weeks after we’d had “the talk” – I didn’t think getting a ring could happen that fast. So I figured he would pop the question either while camping, or when we went to Thailand. Neither’s pretty bad, eh?

Even though I love surprises, I’m a snoop by nature!! It’s so hard to not talk about getting married when you’re just engaged!!! I really really wanted this one to be a surprise. Ok, maybe not the “if” part of the engagement, but definitely the when and where! ;) I didn’t ask Mr. Cubbie any questions about weddings or engagement the entire time leading up to our camping trip. Or during. And then we went on our trip. And no question was popped. Other things were popped. Like squats. And beers. But no ring-a-ding-on-ma-fing! We did have a nice camping trip, though, and it was nice to visit a place that was so special to us before we moved.

At this point I was certain he’d “ask me” on our Thailand trip! But when?? We were going to so many fantastic places! And how?? We planned to do so many cool things!

Is there some place that carries special significance to you and your loved one? How did you get through the pre-engagement psychosis?


  1. pre-engagement was SO difficult for me...we were long distance and I was positive he was going to propose the weekend of Thanksgiving, because that was his next planned trip out to Chicago (from CA)

    Ironically enough, he fooled snoopy me and flew out on a weekend I planned to spend with my grandparents...without giving me a CLUE! Best surprise proposal and definitely worth the long, impatient, nerve-wracking, "I want to start this wedding planning!" wait.

    we've all had some impatience, I'm sure. :-)

    Your story is so romantic and fun!...can't wait for the ending!

  2. That's so adorable he tricked you! :)
    Obviously he knows you well ;)