31 March 2009

License & Registration, please

Ok, so maybe we don't quite have our marriage license yet - one thing at a time.

We are, however, diligently working on our registry!

There are obviously a million and one ways to make your registry, and even more things to put on the registry. Ever the joker, Mr. Cubbie intro'd our registry as follows:

"Hi! When we're not out galavanting around the universe, we have realized that we need a few basic things for our house/life. Things like sea kayaks and industrial grade baking supplies. Here is a short list of things we would really appreciate."

Like many couples, we really don't need the basics anymore. We have plates (from college), we have a couch, we have linens (from college)... what else is normal for a bride & groom to get? The only things we don't have are the things we don't really need. Like a two person sea kayak. And a sweet kitchenaid stand mixer. Mr. Cubbie wants the kitchenaid almost as much as I do!

The other little snafu is geography. How the hell are we going to get all the crap from the wedding down to Chile? And if we don't bring it to Chile, where are we going to store it (really!?) for another two years?

When we move back to Oregon in a few years, we both plan on going back to school. It would be such a shame if all the money we diligently saved in Chile was bled into rent!

Realistically, what we need is help buying a house.


So that's what we're going to do - we're going to register for a house.

My super-cool friend whose wedding I showed you earlier told me an awesome way to register for (basically) money without paying The Man a dime. You do it all in google.

First - open up a google doc, but make it a FORM


Title it whatever you want, but "Mr. & Miss's registry" usually helps.

Add questions that are checkboxes, and fill in the blanks with what you want people to "buy" for you.


Here, we've made different "questions" be rooms in the house. Our guests can buy us the kitchen sink, a wall, the left burner on the stove - anything your consumeristic imagination could want!

My favorite item on our "registry" is in the Living Room - the window Jr. is going to break with a baseball, for a mere $100! I can't wait to see tha
t bought off the registry! ;)

On the bottom of the page you're working on is a link that says "you can publish this form here". This is the URL of your registry. All you need to do is give your guests this URL, and they see this:


When a guest decides to "buy" an item off your registry, they click the checkbox. This sends you an automatic email saying something like "Great Auntie Jo clicked such and such". You don't get an automatic deposit for said item. It's more like a pledge to give you a check. Worried about collecting? Don't. My friend said that this way worked really well. She said only one person flaked on paying, but they were older and didn't quite get that you were supposed to pay for the thing you clicked. We plan on including instructions for this alternative registry on our wedding website.

Realistically, we don't expect for our guests to buy us a house, but a good chunk towards the downpayment will definitely help.

Are you and your fiancé using a normal registry? Or are you having to deal with other factors (like geography) that will make your registry more unique? What's been your favorite alternative registry site?

30 March 2009

An heirloom engagement ring for her

Do you know that I've been engaged for nearly 11 months now, and I still haven't shared pictures of my engagement ring with you? For shame!

I guess I did post an excited-engaged-hand pic a while back, but that doesn't really count! You couldn't see the INCREDIBLE BLING in all its glory!


Honestly, this is the most incredible piece of jewelry I've ever worn (or owned, for that matter!). I posted before about the weightiness (emotional, and physical - look at that rock!) of an expensive engagement ring. Like most girls, I was flippin thrilled to be looking forward to such a pretty piece of sentimental jewelry - I certainly would never buy something like this for myself! However, like a lot of brides, I wasn't too enamored with the idea of a diamond engagement ring. There're a million sources on the net about blood diamonds; I won't waste your time with that. I didn't even know if I'd like a diamond! I guess they're nice, but truth be told, I'd never seen one larger than my mom's (which is a 0.5 carat marquis cut).

If I could have my pick of any fancy-shmancy rock for the ring, I'd choose the one with brilliant color. I love the ocean - I love staring at sunsets and seascapes forever! I wanted to get this same kind of wistfulness when I looked at my engagement ring (too sappy for ya? don't worry, almost done with the gooey stuff! ;) ). I wanted to see the future and the endless possibilities with my husband in that rock - if, after all, I was going to have to wear that thing for the rest of my life!

I also adore filigree on jewelry - rings especially. I like to think the craftsmanship that went into making the ring makes it that much more valuable, nevermind the stickerprice.

Above all, if I could have my pick of an engagement ring, I would have loved the honor of wearing an heirloom ring. Miss Cowboy Boots is such a lucky lil' lass to sport her family heirloom! I think it's the sweetest thing in the world to wear a ring that's been passed down and loved for ages.

So that's what I told Mr. Bear Cub to look for, and boy did he choose well!

My ring wasn't passed down through his family, but it comes from an estate jeweler in California (I can give you the name if you're interested). Lucky for me, Mr. Cubbie has family friends in the estate jewelry business!

My ring is a 1.5 carat sapphire set in a platinum band with tiny diamonds accenting and filigree all the way around. Perfect! I know that this antique was loved before, but most importantly, I know that it will be loved for a long time to come.

because Mr. Rye and I both love pears so much!



I can't wait to pass my engagement ring on to my grandchild one day!




This last pic is my engagement ring nestled atop one of my DIY wedding cake trials. Lavender infused italian meringue frosting? um, YES! We'll just leave that as a spoiler for now ;)

What was the most important thing to you when it came to getting an engagement ring?

ALERT ALERT!! WEDDING GOWN SALE!!

Ladies, there's a Rue La La sale going on NOW for Nicole Miller gowns!!

You can get beautiful gowns like these -


That's a STEAL!!

If you don't already have your gown, or if you aren't already a two-dress-bride, buzz on over to rue-la-la!! (before I do! ;) )

Good luck, ladies!

29 March 2009

Operation: WEDDING CAKES

I know I'm not the first bride in history to do this, but here goes...

I'M MAKING MY OWN WEDDING CAKES.

Oh - wait... see that? That little dangling "s" on the end there? You read right. More than one cake! Before you think I've completely gone off my rocker, let me console you with this pretty picture:
Isn't that lovely?

How about this one:


Just darling!

I guess we could buy the cakes - it's really not important to us to have a tiered cake - but the thing is, I love to bake. LOVE IT. Hell, I've even got a batch of choco-chip cookies in the oven, right now! My sister loves to bake, too - she's thought about opening a bakery! I'm so happy she's agreed to help me bake the cakes! Come to think of it, Mr. Bear Cub's sister also loves to bake - and she used to work in a bakery decorating wedding cakes! Then again - who doesn't like to bake?

Honestly, though, my idea to bake all of the cakes together spawned from the fact that I desperately miss spending time with my friends and my sister. Even before I moved to Chile, I didn't get many opportunities to spend time with my friends and my family - we're scattered all over the country! The idea is that one day before the wedding weekend (likely wednesday) we (everyone who gets in on the whole "bake a cake" fiasco) will converge at our kitchen in Portland and have a wedding-cake baking party! I think it's a smashing idea! (But no cake-smashing allow. yet. ;) ) Especially because it means I'll have an opportunity for more girls-only time before the wedding :)
You might be thinking right now - how is she going to bake the cake on wednesday for the wedding on the weekend? Here's your answer:

You FREEZE the cake layers. Piece of cake! (har har! ;) ) Seriously, I've tested this a few times now, and always to rave reviews about how moist and fluffy the cake is! This works, folks!

Icing is much less time-intensive (depending, of course), so let's put it this way: this is totally doable. I love that our wedding will have this home-made touch!

My favorite thing about that cake up there? simplicity (oh, and the lavender's a nice touch, too ;) ).

Stay tuned for the recipes and the trials (and errors) and successes!

What's your favorite cake ever?

The other honeybee - Mr. Burt and his Bees

You might have noticed from my excited-engaged-hand shot that my nails aren't exactly the most darling things in the world. In fact, I can't even remember the last time I had a proper manicure!

That being said, with respect to wedding day beauty, I'm not exactly planning for a french manicure. When we talk beauty, here at the Bear Cub den, what we (the royal we ;) ) really mean is health. Let's be honest with ourselves - when we're healthy, we exude natural beauty! I've found some other brides along the way who've found this to be true as well.

As for my nails, they don't exactly look healthy. I don't bite them, but as soon as they grow a millimeter, I cut them back to nearly nothing - and for good reason! I have weak nails. They peel, they bend, they break, and all too easily! Luckily, a long time ago a friend introduced me to Nailtiques.



This "nail polish" isn't so much a polish as a protein-enriched nail strengthener. I accidentally sliced through one of my nails a few weeks ago while prepping food (OUCH), and this little baby is bonding the nail together again!

So, while I have no plans to grow my nails out excessively long, I am looking forward to healthier nails on my wedding day. Au natural, and full of healthy glow :)

Since we're on the subject, I also love love love Burt's Bees herbal blemish stick!!

I don't know about you, but I trust this Burt guy and his fluffy beard to rid me of my fledgling acne - and leave me smelling sweet, to boot! This grandpa hippie must know there are hives of little weddingbees faithfully buying his lip balm, if not the rest of his honey-hive stock! All I'm sayin is WHERE'S THE WEDDINGBEE ENDORSEMENT ALREADY, MR. BURT?? ;)

My favorite favorite thing about the herbal "blemish" stick is that it smells like fennel (read: licorice). You did know licorice is an aphrodisiac for men, didn't you? Mr. Cubbie loves to put his face close to mine and give me eskimo kisses when I use Burt's herbal acne stick.

What are your favorite beauty products for a healthier and more natural lifestyle?

28 March 2009

Goin' home to Caledonia

Mr. Cubbie and I both love music - we love how your mood can change with just a song!

A few months ago he discovered a new UK folk singer, Ruth Notman. If you know who Kate Rusby is, she sounds a bit like that! Ms. Notman has some original songs, but when we heard her cover of Caledonia, we knew it was something special.


The song Caledonia (sung by Dougie Maclean) holds special significance to Mr. Cubbie with his mom. The first time we listened to Ruth's album Threads, Mr. Cubbie started to get choked up when he heard her sing Caledonia. He turned to me and said, "I want to dance to this song with my mom at our wedding" - I could see such strong emotions in his watering eyes, and I started to tear up, myself!

I can't wait to watch Mr. Cubbie and his mom dance to this song at our wedding. She's such an incredible person. It's one of my favorite things in the world seeing my future husband express his love for those dear to him.

I have no idea what my dad and I are going to dance to at our wedding - our relationship is certainly different. However, I'm so touched to hear Mr. Cubbie talk excitedly about things he wants to do with his family members at our wedding.

Has your fiancé shown his sentimental side over some part of the wedding? Will you be bawling as much as I will when you watch your husband and MIL dance together at the wedding?

26 March 2009

The Best Places to Kiss in the NW - Part 2

After being smitten with Westwind, we still had 2 weeks of vacation venue hunting left! Originally, we thought for sure we'd want to book Strathcona Park Lodge. To gauge our sanity levels, we decided to skip on up to Vancouver Island before heading to Orcas.

I'd never been to Canada before! Crazy, huh? Boy, had I been missing out!


Strathcona Park Lodge -
SPL was absolutely breathtaking! It's situated at the end of Campbell River about halfway up Vancouver Island. FYI, this isn't Vancouver (as in the city) - it's Vancouver Island. Vancouver Island is pretty big.


You might be asking right now - Hey Miss Rye, how do you get to SPL?
Well, dear reader, you fly. And then you drive. And then you ferry. And then you drive a lot more.

Unfortunately, while en route to SPL, it began to sink in how difficult it could be to get our weddingers from point A to point Wedding Site. From the ferry drop-off at Nanaimo (and after getting some Nanaimo bars!!), the drive to SPL was just over 5 hours. I'm a sucker for pretty places, but we felt this would be asking too much of our friends and family. AND the environment - all those rental cars!!

Still, we checked the place out. The dorks in us thought it would be cool to be married on our "familial lake" ifyouknowwhatimean ;).


If you're interested in SPL for your wedding, all I can tell you is that this place is fantastic! The cabins are rustic, but very comfortable! Access to the lodge is very easy, once you drive the 5 hrs from Nanaimo. There's a whole slew of activities, as well! Mr. Rye and I went kayaking on Campbell Lake (above), and we had a great time!

The picture on the left (above) is the lodge's "ceremony site". Yes, it is beautiful. I couldn't help longing for the cliff meadow at westwind, though! While I looove the ocean and water and whatnot, a beach ceremony isn't really me. I think they can be very lovely, but I'll let you in on a secret: THIS HIPPIE DOESN'T LIKE GETTING HER FEET DIRTY!
blasphemy, I know.



The wedding facilities at SPL are really quite phenomenal! On the left (above) is their "wedding barn" - although I'd say it's much fancier than a "barn". Look! It comes pre-stocked with the ever-popular light-up wedding balls! Everyone needs wedding balls at their reception! The price for having your wedding at SPL is completely reasonable, too. A little less than $1k will get you the barn set up and take down (which include chairs, linens, plates, silverware, lights! balls!), dinner is around $40 a head, and wine is ~$25 a bottle. Each family makes their own reservations at the lodge for a cabin, and you've got yourself a family reunion wedding! (these figures are from fall 2008, btw!)

On the right (above) is the view from the wedding barn. Again, fantastic. Mr. Rye and I gazed at the breathtaking view, and sighed deeply. This place was awesome, but we knew it just wouldn't work out for us. How could we convince everyone to drive up the coast of Vancouver Island? Could we be sure we could get our marriage licenses in Canada? Could Margarine marry us in Canada? If not, would we have to do the courthouse thing beforehand? Would we like the wine they had available? (we're picky like that) Would I be able to bake the wedding cake at their facilities? Add to that, many of my family members were worried about getting a passport (don't ask me).

With a heavy heart (we really really liked SPL!!), we thanked the wedding coordinator at SPL for her time, and went camping.

We didn't go too far from Campbell Lake, just up the road really. Let it sink in just how beautiful Vancouver Island is.


The campsites in Canada are among the best I've seen in my life! In the middle of nowhere, they have platforms for you to pitch your tent on! And bathrooms! With toilet paper! And bear bins!

Canada, you're really good at making liberals pine for you ;)

Isn't Mr. Rye a sweetie? He cleared our campsite while I took pictures :)


Back in amURikuh, we still had plenty of possible locations to check out on Orcas Island. We made reservations to stay at Beach Haven, and I recommend you do, too.


Beach Haven -
Located on the northwest shore of Orcas, Beach Haven is an ideal location for a tranquil family reunion.


The cabin we rented looked just like this one! The view was beautiful, the cabins cosy, the ferry accessible (if not a little pricey), and the "venue fee" the same as Westwind's - ZIP. Did I forget to tell you that? The "venue fee" for westwind (and Beach Haven) is $0 - all you pay for is the lodging!

The unfortunate thing about Beach Haven is that they didn't really have any sort of "meadow" area... or open area for a ceremony at all. The staff told us that if the tide was down, we could hold the ceremony on the pebble beach. That sounded a little iffy, so we nixed Beach Haven, but enjoyed our stay there! If you're thinking about Beach Haven, think early! Most of their occupants book a year in advance! And if you want to rent the entire place (which can room around 70 people), they only allow the whole place to be booked (for two nights) two times a year - one weekend in May, and another in September.

Doe Bay -
Next on the docket was Doe Bay - or "dope bay" as my friend likes to call it. Dope Bay has serious potential. I first heard of the place via Offbeat Bride and some cute original invites. They market themselves as a hippie-like retreat, complete with yoga classes, organic food, live music, and deer roaming free. Unfortunately, in my opinion they market themselves a bit too much. In addition to paying for your lodging, they have a fee of $2.5k for the privilege of using their grass lawn. They claimed this fee was normal in the wedding industry - so I'm guessing that means they roll themselves up into the WIC. This fee was no where to be seen at SPL and westwind - maybe my intuition is good?


This "grass" fee gets you everything you see in the above picture. But you have to rent the chairs. And then later for dinner, they cater (at ~$50 a head), but you have to rent more chairs and linens and tables. You can rent plates and silverware from them, too, but it'll cost you more. It may be normal for some caterers to charge you to use their own plates, but I think it's just silly. It's about $2k if you want to pay dope bay to let you get outside catering. Even though our wedding coordinator at doe bay fully sported the dreads, this place read yuppie to us way more than hippie. It is a lovely venue, though. FYI - when the tide's out, it looks more like red tide. Even though one of my wedding colors is technically red, I don't think the ceremony would be so pretty with dead red jellyfish in the background. Sorry, dope bay, you're nixed.

Buck Bay Farm -
We visited Buck Bay as an afterthought, really (and that's why I don't have a picture). It's a lavender (!!) farm with a bed and breakfast. While this location could be awesome, we decided it was too small. They have lodging for around 20 people, and we wanted for everyone (80 people) to be able to stay in the same place! If you have a small wedding, though, I recommend this place! The owner, Miri, is super nice, and in her early 20s! They'll let you rent out the entire house (including gourmet kitchen) if you want.

Inn at Ships Bay -
By this point we were getting desperate for inspiration on Orcas. I had found Inn at Ships Bay while looking for pictures of "wedding orcas island" on flickr!


Even if you don't have your wedding here, you should definitely stop in for dinner one evening! The inn is on a PEAR ORCHARD. When I told this to Mr. Rye, he got all giddy! We both LOVE pears! love love love!! Like, we're going to shape tiny marzipan pears for the wedding cake we love them so much!

You might be wondering what that means to have a B&B on a pear orchard. That means your 4-course meal can actually be a PEAR-course meal ;) har-har! The food was phenomenal! Delish! We ate pears in the salad, in the main, in the soup, and in the dessert! In all honesty, we were thinking of ways to re-create some of those meals for our own wedding dinner ;)

The Inn is a little steeply priced for our wallet books, but we knew this before we looked at the place. Really, we just wanted an excuse to fantasize about pears.

Camp Orkila -
Finally, we visited Camp Orkila.


Camp Orkila is a YMCA camp on the east shore of Orcas. They don't normally host weddings, but the director told us it had been done once before. Can you imagine a beautiful rustic barn wedding in the picture above? I can! How about a sweet game of ultimate frisbee? yes! Ultimate Wedding? YES YES!!


Being a summer camp, we would have the option of a March or September/October wedding. Being a YMCA camp, we couldn't bring any booze onto the campsite. Westwind is a summer camp also, but it was a YWCA camp that was bought a few years ago by a conservation group - they allow booze.

I know it's a little lame to say that prohibition tipped the scales here, but it's a little true. The foodies in us love to pear pair a good wine with our dinner.

While we decided camp orkila probably wouldn't work out, it was nice to visit Mr. Rye's old camp stomping grounds. He has a lot of memories of this place, and I could see how it was so special to him!

If you want to plan your [dry] wedding at Camp Orkila, contact Beth at the Seattle YMCA.

Our time to look for a venue was up! We scooted on home to Portland, and discovered from Anne (the site coordinator at Westwind) that there was interest in our wedding weekend from other couples. We didn't need any more hints. We promptly mailed in our deposit checks for the weekend of September 19, 20, and 21 - our "equinox" wedding weekend! We just had one small issue - how do you explain to your guests it's a destination wedding weekend (the ceremony would be on a Monday!) when it's in the states?

When did you know your venue was "the one"? ;) Did you have fun venue-hunting, or was it at times stressful?

25 March 2009

Hand-made artisan invitations in a world without Etsy

A world without Etsy?? I know, the horror!

All of you lovely brides-to-be planning in the states should count your lucky stars to have so many wonderful resources at your fingertips!

I may not have etsy, or alchemy on etsy, but I do have the talent of local chilean artists!

La Olla Criolla - fab colombian food!

See this cute little neighborhood eatery? Inside is a colombian family that serves the tastiest arepas and jugo de naranja-platano in the area - La Olla Criolla! I'm biased, though - they're only a block away!

The fantastic part about this place is that Lina, the chef and owner, and her husband are active in the art scene of Coquimbo (the neighboring city to La Serena). They host art shows at their restaurant, and the inside is chock full of her husband's work!

Arepas y arte!

Once we realized it would be too difficult to mail paper for invitation supplies to Chile (customs would likely take a month - redic!), we thought about having our art friends at La Olla craft our invitations. Lina was very interested, and she asked her art friends what they could think up - apparently they can make their own paper (hello, pressed flowers!), and letterpress is a snap!

I'm going tonight to see an example invitation. While I had hoped to make the invitations myself, I'm now hopeful this way will turn out to be one of the most unique and beautifully artistic aspects of our wedding!

How did you find your wedding invitation inspiration? Lay all your etsy suggestions on me! I can still ogle :)

How insanely awesome is THIS??

News flash:

You can look at your wedding dress forever after your wedding, even if it's in the closet!
The incredibly talented Introverted Wife (formerly introverted bride) will paint you (your dress) and your husband (his attire) on canvas --


I personally think this is adorable - and such a unique way to remember that you & your dude dressed to the 9's once upon a time! :) Well, maybe you get to dress up all the time - I like my hiking boots & granola all right :). Plus you see that little cutie on the left? Plus one means it's a family! She'll paint in your pooch or kitty upon request!

Our wedding's not til September - otherwise I'd send her our wedding pics to paint tout de suite!

What do you think? Is this rockin, or what? Way to go, etsy!

24 March 2009

The Best Places to Kiss in the NW - Part 1

I could spout off about how we were “pressed for time” to find a venue, but in all honesty, venue hunting was more of a whirl-wind vacation than anything else. I hope you’re catching on now that we kind of like to travel ;).Our time together in New Mexico was drawing to a close – Mr. Rye Bread defended his thesis on August 29, and we were to start work in Chile on October 1!

good bye new mexico! You’ve been good to us!

I’m from California originally, and Mr. Rye’s from Portland – we’d spent the past two Christmases at his dad’s home, and treasured every moment together in the northwest! There was no question about our wedding location - we wanted to get married in the NW.

If you’ve been keeping up with the story arc, I should tell you – I was hired for the job at the neighboring observatory in Chile! We’re really very lucky, especially considering both our companies instated a hiring freeze in November! This meant that we’d have two incomes (we could AFFORD a wedding!), and I’d have a visa to live in Chile! With this golden ticket of extra time to plan the wedding, I started looking online for wedding locations in the NW.

Mr. Rye and I consider ourselves pretty flexible, but there were a couple of things we were definitely looking for in a venue:

1. Lodging for ~80 people in one place – We live in Chile now! We never get to see our friends or loved ones anymore! When we get married, we want it to be WAY more about the reunion of family and friends than the union of marriage. I miss my friends, and Rye does, too! Hotels and motels are a bit stuffy, so we tried to lean towards summer camps, big bed and breakfasts, and house-rentals.
2. Relatively easy access – Most of our guests have to fly to the NW; there’s no point in making them drive for hours after that!
3. No lameness – We know everyone upcharges just for the word “wedding”. That’s lame. We’re not going to stand for it. If someplace wants to charge us several thousand dollars to stand on their grass, they’ve obviously been smoking too much of said grass.
4. We can bring our own booze – again with the upcharging! Who needs it, when we can BYOB?
5. Killer food – duh!
6. A full-size kitchen we can use (to bake the cake!) – yes, I may be insane, but I'll have my cake, and eat it, too! ;)
7. Must be laid-back
8. Must have an AWESOME view. I really do mean awesome. I know it sounds cliché, but the only things I’d ever envisioned about my “wedding day” were my dress (that it be stunning), and the location (on a meadow on a cliff overlooking the coast)

With this, and a month to book our venue before we fled the country, I got organized, and fast! A lot of brides-to-be have a wedding binder - I had a 50-cents tiny spiral-bound notebook for scribbling in wedding contacts and appointments! This cheapie wasn’t a beaut, but it was certainly uber-portable, and super-organizing! (my mom would be so proud! :) )


The general locations we were looking at were Orcas Island (Mr. Rye was a camp counselor at Camp Orkila!), Vancouver Island (only one place on that huge island!), and the Oregon coast. Originally “Oregon Coast” meant a big house we could rent in Cannon Beach, a la this wedding (isn’t it so sweet? Bummer the audio is gone ☹), but on looking into it further, we realized that one house couldn’t really house everyone, and the most important thing was for everyone to be together. Looking back at this video though, this was really my primary inspiration for our wedding day. This video is what I want!

After reading through The Best Places to Kiss in the Northwest and searching the net, we made our prelim list.
Locations on Orcas Island – 
1. Beach Haven – cabins face the west (hello, sunsets!), not exorbitantly expensive → CHECK!
2. Green Dolphin Farm – quite pricey, but it's run by an AWESOME chef! Reception site only! → ruh-roh!
3. Spring Bay Inn – pretty, but too small → ruh-roh!
4. Camp Orkila – A little "camp anawanna", but it's Mr. Rye Bread’s old camp! How awesome would that be?? → CHECK!
5. Cabins on the Point - a bit pricey, and likely too small → ruh-roh!
6. Buck Bay Farm - a lavender farm! How lovely! However, quite small ☹ → ruh-roh!
7. Turtleback Inn - an adorable farm house! Would you believe they thought our wedding of ~80 was huge?? → ruh-roh!
8. Doe Bay - These hippies took some marketing classes! The place was promising, but way pricier than others → CHECK, for now!
Vancouver Island –
1. Strathcona Park Lodge – Have you seen this?? WOW → CHECK
2. Clayoguot Wilderness Retreat - WOW. SRSLY - look at the link! This place is AWE-SUM. You have to be flown in on a personal plane ($$$$$) ... eek... → ruh-roh!
Oregon Coast –
1. Camp Westwind -- Beautiful Oregon coastline? → CHECK


Our venue-shopping road-trip began with Camp Westwind:


What's that?  Is that a meadow on a cliff overlooking the ocean?  WHY YES IT IS!  BINGO!  I really can't imagine a more beautiful place to be married!  Said grassy meadow is accessible only by a 1km foot path:


... that ain't too shabby either!  I love oregon!  When we were visiting the site, we were passed by a couple of wedding-day joggers.  Yes - Weddingers!  Weddingers?  What do you call people that attend a wedding?  Guests?  uhh.. kinda lame.  I'm going with weddingers from now on!



Sorry little weddingers for putting your pics up on the net!  Luckily most of you are looking away!  Anyways, there was a wedding in prep for that afternoon, so Mr. Rye, MIL Rye Bread, and I got to see the place is full-on weddinging (heehee!) action!


Look!  A sweet cobble-stone fireplace!  RAD!!  Look!  A shaggy Mr. Rye!  WAY rad! ;)


Aren't these cabins darling?  Our rental would be the entire campsite!  It's like a little village of darling cabins and the sweet-ass lodge with the rad fireplace!

Ok, one more pic of Westwind, because I loved it so much:

That's our site-coordinator with Mr. Rye, pointing to Cascade Head!

Westwind was the first site we looked at on our whirlwind venue-shopping trip, hence I was a little nervous my wedding-excitedness was clouding my judgement.  How practical!  Sheesh!  Still, both Rye and I knew we loved the place, so instead of "proposing" to westwind, we decided to "lease", as in, write-in our dates in their calender, but no down-payment (sweet deal, no?).  Then we had to actually decide on a rough date!  We visited westwind in mid-September.  Believe it or not, this is actually the sunniest time for Oregon!  Since they're a summer camp (ahem - SUMMER camp), the only dates they had available were around the vernal equinox and the autumnal equinox - that's around March 21 and September 21.  A little back-story: Mr. Rye runs a (southern hemisphere) summer program for undergrads in Chile that ends around March 21 every year.  It'd be downright insane of us to get married on March 21!  SO - autumnal equinox, it is (tentatively)!  If you're lost as to why I'm harping on the equinoxes, don't worry, I'll save that for another post!  

We loved westwind, but we still had 2 other main locations to check out!  And camping to fit in, of course!  What hippy-come-scientist doesn't fit camping into her wedding-venue search? ;)

Do you think we chose westwind as our location?  Did you chose the first place you looked at?  What was your favorite part about the venue search - and how did you find your venues?

23 March 2009

The Best Places to Kiss in the North West

I could spout off about how we were “pressed for time” to find a venue, but in all honesty, venue hunting was more of a whirl-wind vacation than anything else. Our time together in New Mexico was drawing to a close – Mr. Bear Cub defended his thesis on August 29, and we were to start work in Chile on October 1! We had a month to tie up loose ends at home in Oregon and find our venue!

Mr. Cubbie and I consider ourselves pretty flexible, but there were a couple of things we were definitely looking for:
  1. Lodging for ~80 people in one place – We live in Chile now! We never get to see our friends or loved ones anymore! When we get married, we want it to be WAY more about the reunion of family and friends than the union of marriage. I miss my friends, and Mr. Cubbie does, too! Hotels and motels are a bit stuffy, so we tried to lean towards summer camps, B&Bs, and house-rentals.
  2. Relatively easy access – Most of our guests have to fly to the NW; there’s no point in making them drive for hours after that!
  3. No lameness – We know everyone upcharges just for the word “wedding”. That’s lame. We’re not going to stand for it. If someplace wants to charge us several thousand dollars to stand on their grass, they’ve obviously been smoking too much of said grass.
  4. We can bring our own booze – again with the upcharging! Who needs it, when we can BYOB?
  5. Killer food – duh!
  6. A full-size kitchen we can use (to bake the cake!)
  7. Must have an AWESOME view. The only things I’d ever envisioned about my “wedding day” were my dress (that it be stunning), and the location (on a meadow on a cliff overlooking the coast).
The general locations we were looking at were Orcas Island (Mr. Cubbie was a camp counselor at Camp Orkila!), Vancouver Island, and the Oregon coast. Originally “Oregon Coast” meant a big house we could rent in Cannon Beach, à la this wedding (isn’t it so sweet? Bummer the audio is gone :( ), but on looking into it further, we realized that one house wouldn't be big enough to sleep all our guests, and the most important thing was for everyone to be together. Looking back at this video though, this was really my primary inspiration for our wedding day. This video is what I want!

After reading through The Best Places to Kiss in the Northwest and searching the net, we made our list. We would start in Oregon with Camp Westwind, then head north to Canada to check out Strathcona Park Lodge. We planned a short camping trip on Vancouver Island (what hippy-come-scientist doesn't fit camping into her wedding-venue search? ;) ), and rounded out our trip with Beach Haven, Camp Orkila, and Doe Bay on Orcas Island.

Camp Westwind and the Oregon coastline were just dreamy.
What's that? Is that a meadow on a cliff overlooking the ocean? WHY YES IT IS! BINGO! I really can't imagine a more beautiful place to be married! Said grassy meadow is only accessible by a 1km foot path:
... that ain't too shabby either! I love Oregon! When we were visiting the site, we were passed by a couple of wedding-day joggers. Yes - Weddingers! Weddingers? What do you call people that attend a wedding? Guests? uhh.. kinda lame. I'm going with weddingers from now on!
There was a wedding in prep for that afternoon, so Mr. Cubbie, MIL Bear Cub, and I got to see the place is full-on weddinging (heehee!) action!
Look! A sweet cobble-stone fireplace! RAD!! Look! A shaggy Mr. Cubbie! WAY rad! ;)
Aren't these cabins darling? Our rental would be the entire campsite! It's like a little village of darling cabins and the sweet-ass lodge with the rad fireplace!

Ok, one more pic of Westwind, because I loved it so much:
That's our site-coordinator with Mr. Cubbie, pointing to Cascade Head!

I was a little nervous my wedding-excitedness was clouding my judgement. How practical! Sheesh! Still, both Mr. Cubbie and I knew we loved the place, so instead of "proposing" to Westwind, we decided to "lease", as in, write-in our dates in their calender, but no down-payment (sweet deal, no?).

Originally, we thought for sure we'd want to book Strathcona Park Lodge (this wedding there remains a major source of inspiration). I'd never been to Canada before! Crazy, huh? Boy, had I been missing out!

Strathcona Park Lodge -
SPL was absolutely breathtaking! It's situated at the end of Campbell River about halfway up Vancouver Island. FYI, this isn't Vancouver (as in the city) - it's Vancouver Island. Vancouver Island is pretty big.
You might be asking right now - Hey Miss Cubbie, how do you get to SPL?
Well, dear reader, you fly. And then you drive. And then you ferry. And then you drive a lot more.

Unfortunately, while en route to SPL, it began to sink in how difficult it could be to get our weddingers from point A to point Wedding Site. From the ferry drop-off at Nanaimo (and after getting some Nanaimo bars!!), the drive to SPL was just over 5 hours. I'm a sucker for pretty places, but we felt this would be asking too much of our friends and family. AND the environment - all those rental cars!!
The picture on the left (above) is the lodge's "ceremony site". Yes, it is beautiful. I couldn't help longing for the cliff meadow at Westwind, though! While I looove the ocean and water and whatnot, a beach ceremony isn't really me. I think they can be very lovely, but I'll let you in on a secret: THIS HIPPIE DOESN'T LIKE GETTING HER FEET DIRTY!
blasphemy, I know.

The wedding facilities at SPL are really quite phenomenal! On the left (above) is their "wedding barn" - although I'd say it's much fancier than a "barn". Look! It comes pre-stocked with the ever-popular light-up wedding balls! Everyone needs wedding balls at their reception! The price for having your wedding at SPL is completely reasonable, too. A little less than $1k will get you the barn set up and take down (which include chairs, linens, plates, silverware, lights! balls!), dinner is around $40 a head, and wine is ~$25 a bottle. Each family makes their own reservations at the lodge for a cabin, and you've got yourself a family reunion wedding! (these figures are from fall 2008, btw!)

On the right (above) is the view from the wedding barn. Again, fantastic. Mr. Cubbie and I gazed at the breathtaking view, and sighed deeply. This place was awesome, but we knew it just wouldn't work out for us. How could we convince everyone to drive up the coast of Vancouver Island? Could we be sure we could get our marriage licenses in Canada? Could Margarine marry us in Canada? If not, would we have to do the courthouse thing beforehand? Would I be able to bake the wedding cake at their facilities? Add to that, many of my family members were worried about getting a passport (don't ask me).

With a heavy heart (we really really liked SPL!!), we thanked the wedding coordinator for her time, and went camping.

We didn't go too far from Campbell Lake, just up the road really. Let it sink in just how beautiful Vancouver Island is.
The campsites in Canada are among the best I've seen in my life! In the middle of nowhere, they have platforms for you to pitch your tent on! And bathrooms! With toilet paper! And bear bins! (Luckily we were the only Bear Cubs we saw!)

Canada, you're really good at making liberals pine for you ;)
Isn't Mr. Bear Cub a sweetie? He cleared our campsite while I took pictures :)

Back in amURikuh, we still had plenty of possible locations to check out on Orcas Island. We made reservations to stay at Beach Haven, and I recommend you do, too.

Beach Haven -
Located on the northwest shore of Orcas, Beach Haven is an ideal location for a tranquil family reunion.
The view was beautiful, the cabins cosy, the ferry accessible (if not a little pricey), and the "venue fee" the same as Westwind's - ZIP. Did I forget to tell you that? The "venue fee" for westwind (and Beach Haven) is $0 - all you pay for is the lodging!

The unfortunate thing about Beach Haven is that they didn't really have any sort of "meadow" area... or open area for a ceremony at all. The staff told us that if the tide was down, we could hold the ceremony on the pebble beach. (How's that for chancing things?) If you're thinking about Beach Haven, think early! Most of their occupants book a year in advance! And if you want to rent the entire place (which can room around 70 people), they only allow bookings (for two nights) twice a year - one weekend in May, and another in September.

Doe Bay -
Next on the docket was Doe Bay - or "dope bay" as my friend likes to call it. I first heard of the place via Offbeat Bride and some cute original invites. They market themselves as a hippie retreat, complete with yoga classes, organic food, live music, and deer roaming free. Unfortunately, in my opinion they market themselves a bit too much. In addition to paying for your lodging, they have a fee of $2.5k for the privilege of using their grass lawn. They claimed this fee was normal in the wedding industry - so I'm guessing that means they roll themselves up into the WIC. This fee was no where to be seen at SPL and Westwind - maybe my intuition is good?
This "grass" fee gets you everything you see in the above picture. But you have to rent the chairs. And then later for dinner, they cater, but you have to rent chairs and linens and tables. If you want to eat there, you need to rent plates and silverware from them, too. It may be normal for some caterers to charge you to use their own plates, but I think it's just silly. It's about $2k if you want to pay dope bay to let you get outside catering. Even though the new-agey wedding coordinator was fully sporting her dreads, this place read yuppie to us way more than hippie. It is a lovely venue, though. FYI - when the tide's out, it looks more like red tide. Even though one of my wedding colors is technically red, I don't think the ceremony would be so pretty with dead red jellyfish in the background. Sorry, dope bay, you're nixed.

Camp Orkila -
Finally, we visited Camp Orkila.
Camp Orkila is a YMCA camp on the east shore of Orcas. They don't normally host weddings, but the director told us it had been done once before. Can you imagine a beautiful rustic barn wedding in the picture above? I can! How about a sweet game of ultimate frisbee? yes! Ultimate Wedding? YES YES!!
Being a summer camp, we would have the option of a March or September/October wedding. Being a YMCA camp, we couldn't bring any booze onto the campsite. Westwind is a summer camp also, but it was a YWCA camp that was bought a few years ago by a conservation group - they allow booze.

I know it's a little lame to say that prohibition tipped the scales here, but it's a little true. The foodies in us love to pear pair a good wine with our dinner. ;)

While we decided Camp Orkila probably wouldn't work out, it was nice to visit Mr. Cubbie's old camp stomping grounds. He has a lot of memories of this place, and I could see how it was so special to him!

If you want to plan your [dry] wedding at Camp Orkila, contact Beth at the Seattle YMCA.

Our time to look for a venue was up! We scooted on home to Portland, and discovered from Anne (the site coordinator at Westwind) that there was interest in our wedding weekend from other couples. We didn't need any more hints. We promptly mailed in our deposit checks for the weekend closest to the equinox in September! (Don't worry, I'll explain more about the importance of our "equinox wedding" in a later post!) We just had one small issue - how do you explain to your guests it's a destination wedding weekend (the ceremony would be on a Monday!) when it's in the states?

When did you know your venue was "the one"? ;) Did you have fun venue-hunting, or was it at times stressful? Did you chose the first place you looked at?